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Hi Everyone,
Sorry not been on for a while, thought i say hello again. Happy New Year and hope everyone had a great christmas. Things seem to be going my way at the moment, had a few upsets but nothing that can not be dealt with in a good way. M is still potty traing, we have going for a wee down to an art now, he lets me know when he needs to go or has gone all by himself, still struggling with the poo, he keeps insisting on a nappy for that, the few times he has done it in the potty he has cried alot.
M's dad is still messing us about but mediation starts in a couple of weeks, so hopefully we will get something sorted and get routines going again. M is starting Swimming lessons in the mean time.
Sadly i did not get into any of my chosen unis but have started a college course instead. for every door that shuts and new one opens. so heres hoping to some promising outcomes.
Hope Everyone is well
Hi Louise
Am doing a psychology course for the moment, thanks for that advice, we were trying with money to encourage him to go, saying he could have 50p everytime he done a poo and then at the end of the week we could use that money to buy a new toy car or some sweets/ chocolates as a treat. this worked with the wee training and by then end of november he had enough to buy three thomas trains even though it was only 20p per wee, but he is still relucant to go, i let him have the nappy as i do not want him to get constipated and he tells me when he needs to do them and when he is finished so i can take it off and clean. But i think he knows enough now that he should at least try to do it. He has his own money box to put his money in. My brother even tried yesterday to get him to do it in the potty by offering to take him to the toy shop and buy him any toy he wanted plus £5 to put in his money box, but that was still a great big NO from my M.
So it sounds like taking the pressure off is a good idea. You don't see many teens doing poos in a nappy, unless they have a medical problem, so it will happen in its good time.
Psychology course? that is interesting, are you studying the main schools of thought such as Behaviourism and Freud, or more modern developments?
Not to sure yet, as i have only recieved the stuff today, so will do it section by section through ICS. But it is something i have had an interest in for a while
I know it will happen eventually its just fustrating as he has been in underpants now since August and does not want to do the same for poos yet.
I know....all children vary. My eldest was almost instant for wees but took longer for poos as I said. Youngest.....well it took about a year to complete the whole process but he did have some developmental delays. Truly the main thing is NOT to stress about it 
thats true
Just wanted to say that my 4 all varied on the potty training front, though my son was the same as M with the not wanting to poo on the potty, he never did take to it, a friend suggested one of those seats that fix to the toilet, i would leave his nappy on and get him to sit on the toilet to go, so he could get used to sitting there etc until eventually i managed to get the nappy off and get him to go without it.
Hi SG
Happy New Year to you too, glad that you are taking things in your stride. Well done for getting onto the college course!!!!!!! What is the course?
The potty training thing...my eldest was the same, he was superb at the wee training but he would hang on and hang on with a poo, and wait until my back was turned and do it on the floor (eek!) What worked with him was a star chart, but very very low key. When your boy asks for a nappy for his poo say yes ok you can do that, or you can do it on the potty and win a star, it's up to you. If he chooses the nappy just do it calmly and pleasantly. Keep saying the same thing about the star every day. At a time when a poo is not the issue, go through the star chart again and say ooh if only you could win 3 stars you would get a prize! (you can specify more stars than this but I would say no more than 5 as he is only little) If he does choose the potty, as well as ceremoniously sticking the star on the chart, make a great deal of fuss of him, cheer and clap,my boy used to be able to ring up a suitably primed family member and tell them that he had been on his potty......this really motivated him