Just joined and thought I'd say hello.
Been bringing up my little princess on my own since she was a baby.
Now she's 13 and has been possesed by an evil spirit that hurls insulting comments at me on a fairly regular basis, refuses to go to school and hurls things around the room.
The pink ribbons and bunches have been replaced with an emo haircut. The disney songs have been replaced with someone called Slipknot (very loud & noisy and I'm not sure what language they sing in).
Steve
Hi StevieMac and welcome along.
Yes teenagers are certainly a handful. If we can remember that it is all about them establishing their identity separately from their parents it helps a bit...until we can also see that far from being an individual, they often follow what their friends are doing instead of following what their parents are doing, haha.
The refusing to go to school is worrying, though. Is the school working with you on this, or have you had a lot of hassle from them?
Thanks for the replies folks....that made me laugh abra!
I understand the identity thing Louise... I've done some vol work with young people, an open university course and a few other things all in preparation for this time of her life. Reality however, is proving a little difficult!
School are just being as you'd expect most mainstream schools to be. She rebels, they punish which makes her rebel further. It's only going to go one way.
I went to phone the EWO on the 2nd day of her abscence for some advice, to find out the school had already rung. They were a bit keen I thought.
I've looked into the consequences and it's not very good (utlimately it's care proceedings). Not only from her education side but the financial implications are incredible under the new rules...I'm not available for work if she doesn't go to school so not entitled to JSA, she's not disabled or suffering any mental illness so I won't be getting any money pretty soon.
I might sneak into her room tonight with pink ribbons in hand, and put her hair in bunches while she's asleep.
Hi Steve,
brave man to sneak into the room of a teenege daughter! They are fitted with special daddy sensors at this age, and she will turn immediately into the evil monster and start screaming at you!
Mine is just about to turn 15 and is getting quite reasonable for a teen. Patience, patience, more patience and absolutely NO direct confrontation, as you have not a hope of winning against a teenage girl.
Did I say patience? The pink ribbons were so much easier!
Hi StevieMac
I've been raising my Daughter alone since she was a baby too. She too has her moments (it's a teenage thing) but I know she appreciates and understands all my hard work and I'm sure your little Princes is the same
Take care :)
Hi StevieMac and welcome to One Space from me. Have a look at this video - Truancy, does anything here strike a chord with you and your daughter?
Hello
I joined this forum a while ago but can't remember log in so I've made another account.
I look forward to sharing experiences and help as much as I can.
Hello Hannah40,
Welcome back to One Space,
I look forward to hearing more about you and your family
How many children do you have?
I have 2 children (boys). One who will be 18 next month and one who is 8 years old.
That's abit of a gap between your boys, do they get along well together?
Do you have family and friends that live near to you that support you?
I imagine that with having an 18 year old you will have plenty of experiences to share.
Hi Steve and welcome to Onespace, hopefully you will find others on her in a similar position to you who will give you advice if you need it.
I remember Slipknot some time ago with my older sons, but have noticed a revival recently with my younger one (12 years old). Sounds like you have your hands full at the moment with your daughter. I would rather have my four sons than a 13year old girl anyday. However I am to become a grandmother later this year and am hoping for a little girl as it would be nice to do the pink and fluffy stuff for a change. And at least I can give her back to her parents when she is 13!!!
Take care
Abra