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dkmummy

hi all

             im a single mum to 2 boys ages 4 and 2. my ex parnter wants contact with both boys even thou hes only the dad to my youngest.

my ex left me 2 weeks ago and hes already got a new partner and she has a kid.

so it my kids feel like hes just chucked them aside which is a feeling i never wanted them to feel.

i cant even walk out the room without them thinking im leaving them.

Posted on: August 27, 2012 - 10:45am
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello dk mummy and welcome to One Space

Your boys will be feeling very insecure at the moment and all you can do is be patient and give them tons of reassurance. You may find this book helpful, to read with them, click to see.

In practical terms you need to think about the issue of his time with one or both boys. I would have thought that you need to treat both boys the same even though he is not the biological father of the eldest.

Have you sorted things out for yourself in terms of money and housing and making sure you are getting some child support money?

Posted on: August 27, 2012 - 3:07pm

VinnieJ

Hi, Keep your head up x

Posted on: September 18, 2012 - 9:33am