fromagefrais

does anybody have any help or adivse? my partner hasnt seen his children for 2 years now, his ex wont let him see them...

 

Posted on: April 15, 2012 - 2:15pm
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littleredhen
DoppleMe

can you give us more details - is his name of their birth certificate or is their a court order stopping him?

has she stated why he can't see them

Posted on: April 15, 2012 - 3:02pm
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Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi fromage frais

Yes do tell us more, as Little red hen says,  how old are they, how long has he been separated from their mum, is his name on the birth cerificate, what is the reason behind no contact? Has he had legal advice?

Posted on: April 15, 2012 - 5:21pm
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fromagefrais

hi, yes sorry, well, they have been split up for about 5 years now, it was a mutual agreement, after the split she let him see the girls no problem (they are ages 12 and 8 now) untill she got a new boyfriend and the contact stopped, she wouldnt reply to txt's or phone calls, she would pretend her and the girls wernt in when he was stood knocking at the door, she changed her landline and mobile number and was just being alkward, theres no court order stopping him seeing the girls, he pays child support every month straight from his wages every month, she claims he doesnt pay it, but we have proof that she is still recieving payments from the csa, his name is on their birth certificates yes, basically we have no money to afford to take this down the legal route so trying to collect information and find  out what his options and rights are as a father without it costing a fortune, also we have tried to get legal aid but apparently he earns to much.......if you have any help or advise i would be so gratefull and were getting pretty desperate now, thanks

 

Posted on: April 16, 2012 - 3:00pm
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Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello fromagefrais

Thanks so much for telling us that. You can ask a question to our own Legal Expert, which is free of charge. Let me also tell you that applying for defined parenting time is something he can do without a lawyer. You can get a form to fill in from your local Family Court (the staff are really helpful and will advise you, again free of charge). One of the things he will be asked is if he has been to mediation with the girls'mum.

So, the first thing is for him to write to her and say Dear X, I am very concerned that I am not seeing the girls at the moment and want to sort this out. Are you prepared to come to mediaton with me? if we cannot sort this out amicably then you will leavbe me no alternative but to take legal action. He needs to keep a copy of the letter and perhpas send a followup letter. My guess is she won't say yes but if she does then here is where you can find a mediator (you have to pay, but cheaper than court)

Presuming she won't go, then he submits the form for a hearing, there are court costs to pay but it is do-able and not massively expensive (ask the court staff when you get the form)

Posted on: April 17, 2012 - 8:54am
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fromagefrais

we actaully sent her a message last night speaking for the first time in two yrs, asking if we could put the past behind us and think of the girls as they have grandparents, cousins etc that need apart in their lives, we got a message back which was a miracle by the way basically saying, he hasnt payed any csa for the girls since he left, which he has and we have evidence she is recieving payments and 'to go and crawl under the rock he came out o'f, the kids dont want to see him and he will never ever see them again. theres no way she will come to speak to a mediator with us but will will definately try, thank  you so much for your help and advise and we will definately follow this up,

thanks

amanda

Posted on: April 17, 2012 - 4:15pm
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hazeleyes
DoppleMe

Hi. I do hope this is resolved for your partner soon. Let us know how it goes.

Posted on: April 17, 2012 - 5:50pm
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