Hi Ladies and gents,
I have been a lurker of late, and things have just settle down so you should all see a bit more of me so to speak!!
My little boy is two and we have been on our own for almost four months now....
After a rubbish weekend (his daddy had him), he came home and gave me a hug....a bit later we were playing games and he started playing 'whats that and whats in there?' He points at things and says 'whats in there?'. We went through whats in the cup, whats in the bag, and then he pointed at my nose and said whats in there? then he looked up my nose and said 'bogies in there mummy, nosewipe....!'.
It just made me laugh how straightforward and unashamed our little ones are!!
Hope you have all had good weekends!!
Lou xx
My evening starts now!!! My little munchkin has just gone off to sleep so now I can have some supper, iron my clothes for work and then grab a glass of vino to watch the X factor, before hitting the sack!!
I have had a look around and can see so much great support and things to help me along my way!
I am doing ok, the first month after I found out about my ex's affair was just awful. I kept it from everyone until I came to terms with it all myself. I felt like I needed for it tobe right in my head before I could expect anyone else to have to deal with it, and I am pleased I did. My parents and sister are an amazing support, and to be fair so are my little boys other grandparents, they are keen to stay very much a part of his life, which is lovely! At the moment, daddy is down south with work so only sees him when he can get back up North. Which I understand and accept. And when he does have him, I do get that break! My mum is struggling with the fact that I let my ex have such access to my little boy, but I would rather keep things civil...am sure in time she will see if it is for the best!
Phew....what a gabble!!! But in a nutshell, we are doing ok!!
Thanks you x
It's good that your son still sees his dad and you are comfortable and OK with that, it can be difficult dealing with someone who has hurt you and the natural thing is to try and hurt them back but it's the children that suffer at he end of the day when people do that.
Good for you : )
You come across as pretty confident and sorted, Take care.
Hello loopy6302
That's great if you are able to join in more here!
I so understand the thing about making it right in your own head before you share, otherwise you have to "manage" everyone else's reactions whilst you are still reeling from shock yourself. I take my hat off to you that you are doing your best for your boy's sake to be civil to his dad and whilst I understand your Mum's reaction, the best thing for your son IS to have his dad there, if possible.
They are exhausting at that age though, aren't they? I wish I could bottle some of their energy and have a swig of it now and again! Did you enjoy the XFactor? I thought it was right for Storm to go but thought the girl group should have been the other one out.
It's good to know you're doing ok 
Hi Loopy6302
It is good that your son's paternal grandparents still want contact too. After all it isn't their fault is it what their son has done.Do they live near to you, or down South? If it's possible for a child to see their absent parent, then it has to be a good thing doesn't it? Did you enjoy your vino last night? My son and I used to be a huge fan of X Factor, but we haven't really watched it religiously this time, although last night 8 year old decided he wanted too, (that could of course have had something to do with him trying to wrangle out of going to bed)!!
Do you work full time?
Wow, reponses!!!
Bubblegum, i am far from sorted!!! I just come across that way!! But I am getting there, slowly but surely!!
Wasnt surprised Storm left X factor but cant help thinking Cher should be going soon, the girl cannot sing!!! She can rap and swagger but cant hold a note!! 
Controversial, I know!!
My little one is hilarious, full of beans and never stops talking so he is exhausitng but I wouldnt have it any other way!! He is a little blessing!!
I work part time at the moment, but am starting to think maybe I should go gull time to earn more money, seeing as i am the only wage earner now!!!!
Did you all enjoy X factor???
Oh loopy6302 I am a terror for all reality TV (dancing, ice-skating, jungle, XFactor, Comic Relief, Apprentice and even Big Brother when it was on) so I had better not get started on all that.
The song that Cher sang, everyone was moaning that she spoiled a Jay Zee song but in fact he himself adapted it from that musical "Annie" !!
As far as your working goes, as long as you do 16 hours or more and get Working Tax Credit, you may find that unless your job is very well paid you are not much better off working full time, worth investigating....
Thankgoodness someone agrees with me. Cher is useless. Didn't Diane Vickers look and sound so different? So grown-up in just two or three years.
Louise, you forgot Britain's Got Talent hehe
Hope everyone is having a good day.
x
I can't get over how Diane Vickers has changed!
Matt to win X-Factor!!!!!!
Oh yes, Britain's Got Talent. There was also a dreadful show where minor celebrities each chose a dog from a rescue centre and trained it to do a doggy obstacle course, it was awful and even I drew the line at that!
Loopy 6302 how is your day going?
My day is not going too bad, sitting at my desk at the end of a very quiet day!!
Diana Vickers seemed like a totally different gal!! I couldnt belive how grown up she was....that makes me sound old, doesnt it!!
Louise - I was thinking that, unless the full time job is well paid, it isnt worth it!! I found that in the past, I was offered a full time position but financially I would be worse off!! Terrible isnt it!
Totally agree, gorgeous Matt has got to win X Factor...he gives me shivers when he sings!!
His voice is brilliant.
It's not often I do pick up the phone to vote, but I 'could' be tempted with him..!!
Ooh sparkling lime, it is the thin end of the wedge, as we say in Yorkshire, soon you will be voting on the dog obstacle course show! ()
Loopy6302, if you get wind of a fulltime job it is worth doing what is called "a better-off calculation", you can get one of these by contacting our 1-2-1 money advice. Click here to see the page. You would need details of the proposed wage, your housing costs and any benefits you are currently receiving
As for the X Factor, I think there are a few really good ones in it this year including Trayce
Well I thought I would revive this thread as our youngsters can say some funny things. My son is 17.
Me: So tea will be at 5 tomorrow as you have college in the evening
Son: What is it for tea?
M: Sausages. Why do you always want to know what is for tea in advance?
S: So I can look forward to it if it is a good one
M Are there any teas we have that you don't look forward to?
S: Erm......no.
M: What, not even MINCE? (he always moans if it is mince)
S: No, I like everything really. It is just I can look forward to it even more if it is one of my favourites
M: Ah, so what is your most favourite tea of all?
S; (stands on one leg and hops around a bit) Dunno. I am just hoping you will surprise me with something that COULD be my favourite.
(MASTERCHEF, eat your heart out!!!!!)
Hee hee! get your chefs hat on Louise, you have a new goal to reach, creating a new favourite meal!!
I loved the vision of him standing on one leg and hopping round.
My daughter sent me this for Valentines Day! You're better than chocolate on a sundae!! Slightly annoying, but the sentiment is sweet!! 
AWWW, but what about the other days of the week? 
My son is very smitten with this girlfriend.......he booked a restaurant last night and went to meet her, armed with a long stemmed red rose and some chocs!!!! texted me later to say he wouldn't be home till late and I replied "...when you have finished doing the washing up at Brio's"
Sundae Louise not Sunday!!
Oh my, how does it feel seeing your son like this? Did he have a good evening and what do you think of the girlfriend??
I haven't even met her, Anna! She is 18 and works with him so I suppose I could pop into the shop when he is not there and have a sneaky look but it feels like cheating, somehow. Sure she will be coming to tea before long 
Oooh, be sure to keep us all informed!
my daughter told me they will be doing their cycling sufficiency at school soon 
Ooh that is brilliant, LRH, did you keep a straight face?
Tee hee! Brilliant!
Well, some of you know my son (17) has a girlfriend now and it is his first proper relationship, all the others have fizzled out after three or four dates. Anyway at the weekend, this girl's sister got married and he had been invited but was working, So she wanted him to go to the evening do but he was not sure, and asked me whether it was rude just to go to the evening do, and I explained that this was usually separate from the main ceremony so it was OK. He still said he would not go but then on Saturday suddenly announced he was going and could he have a lift?
I said what has happened to change your mind? He said just LOOK at this text message. It said "You don't have to come if you don't want to" He said to me "Mum, when a woman says that, you just KNOW you're in trouble"
love it Louise - he is learning well
My son is 15 now but when he was 8 he came home from school one day and helped me do the tea , as we sat down to eat he said there was a girl in school who is a lesbian , after getting over the shock of what he had just said, i asked him how he knows this, and he said that she told him, so i replied shes a bit young to know if she wants to be, I was trying so hard not to panic that i was having this conversation with him at 8 years of age, so i said what were you talking about for her to admit this he said " well we were in the dinner hall and there was sausages for lunch and she said i cant eat them im a lesbian" . It came to light after all the laughing and sighs of relief that this girl was a vegetarian and her religion forbids her to eat meat, he didnt even know what lesbian meant.
Aww bless. You did well to just let that conversation take its course, tying hard. When my eldest was circumcised (due to painful foreskin) he was just short of 16 so I had to come to the pre-op thing with him. They ran through all the stuff and said to him "after the op, no sexual activity for 4 to 6 weeks" (ok we all know what 15 year old boys are like and what activities they are likely to be involved in ) We left the hospital and he said to me "That's a bit harsh...no sexual activity for forty six weeks"......
Lol Louise your son is funny.
My little girl (now 8) went through a faze of why do people talk like this...? Why do some people do that...? etc On more than one occasion she made me red in the face by shouting at the top of her voice on the bus "why did that lady just pick her nose?" or "why is that lady picking her knickers out of her bum?" Oh the shame....
But the worst all time one was when I met up with a 'friend' who I hadnt seen in a while I was talking away to her in the supermarket and my little girl kept pulling at my jacket as they do and she goes "mum why are you talking to her when you told Maria that all she does is talk rubbish" I went straight to the DIY section to look for a spade.... 
Oh dear, they say that small children tell the truth.
When I was married to the boys' dad, we had to have the IN-LAWS to stay, At the time I had just discovered Sloggi knickers and had bought a dozen white pairs. Eldest had said "They're big white pants, Mummy" and unthinkingly I said "Oh well, big white pants, big white bottom", which made him giggle. So.....the in-laws visit passed without hideous incident and I said to him later, "well done, you were such a good boy when Grandma and Grandad were here" and he said, proudly "Yes I was.....and I didn't even say big white pants, big white bottom" !!
Ha!
I am not one to wear skirts - ever! But I decided to wear one one day, like you do. I nipped over to my mates house on the way to the cinema with my little girl (then 4) my mate said jokingly as I left to go cinema "ooh you might pull in that skirt" and I said "No man in his right man would look at these legs".
To my horror as I am queing up at the box office my little girl suddenly shouts "mummy mummy you were wrong! that man over there is looking at your legs, look look!!" I dont know who went more red, me, him or his girlfiend...
Whilst out at the weekend my 12 year old daughter A went into the public loos and came out saying that there were no vegan toilets, me and my 11 year were in stitchs which prompted my dash to find a vegan loo!!
hahaha, you should not laugh so much!!
My vegitarian nephews cat killed and deposited a rabbit in the kitchen, my sister said 'Oi! get rid of that half eaten rabbit' to which my nephew said 'but mum I'm a vegitarian' (not wanting to touch it, or do anything much really... teenagers!) my sister replied with 'I'm not asking you to eat it, just get rid of the damn thing'
Maybe you had to be there.. but we laughed.
This one is probably one that social services will be on my back for, along with femanists... but! last weekend I decided to deviate from my norm of wine and purchase some bottles of beer, I was sat at my computer and my daughter was desperatly wanting to open them with my bottle opener, what with kids and wanting to do stuff (everything) when they are seven... and so I would say 'get me a beer woman' and she would happily trundle off and get one and open it for me and then hand it to me completly not getting the sexist conotations of the situation, just happily smilling and wating for me to finish my beer so she could get the next one : )
Sounds like you have got her well-trained
Awwwwww! And hahahahaha for the first part - eeeek, don't blame your nephew
Hi loopy6302.
Yes, kids do come out with allsorts don't they! 2 is such a lovely inquisitive age, but also tiring hehe. How are you managing being a single Mum? Does your son's Dad have him on a regular basis? At least you are able to get a break, which is a good thing. Do you have friends and family to offer any support?
Hope you've managed to have a look around the site. It's a lovely warm friendly group, so please do join in with whatever takes your fancy.
Have had a good weekend thankyou. Friday evening was loud and noisy, (friends around), yesterday was a sluggish day for me, hehe, and today, normal chores to be done before son goes to school tomorrow. He turned 8 in September.
Hope you have a lovely evening.
x