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I have been thinking about the friends that I have had over the years. Some were around for a short while, some longer, but only a very few have lasted a lifetime.
Do you have a particular friend that you would like to meet up with again, rekindle your friendship? Or have you had a close friend that let you down badly? Do you have a lifelong friend that you can't imagine life without?
Lets talk about friends 
I have Ben who I've known for thirty years on and off, he's the sort of friend who I can not see for years (at least ten) and then pass him in the street on my Bike (this happened about five years ago) and stop and give him a big hug and continue our friendship more or less as it used to be.
We don't see each other very often, just nowadays pass laddish insults to each other on face book, he's one of my longest friends, him and his big catholic family brothers.
Most my friends, in fact all of them are on facebook and I don't see them socialy in real life, but I do have places around the world I can travel to when I retire from fatherhood, when my kids are off doing their own things.
: )
I have some brilliant friends.
My best friend was brilliant. We met when we were both in the Civil Service. She knew me when I was single and when I was married. She was amazing when I got divorced and when we were homeless. Without her, I'm not sure I'd have been able to cope as I did.
However she died in 2007. I still miss her incredibly and have never been as close to anyone as I was with her.
As I say though, I do have some great friends now, just not a 'best' friend.
I bumped into a friend that I had when our children were small, we shared everything from life stories and bumpy times to scraping together a picnic from each others houses and going camping!
We fell out over strategies for parenting and we didn't see each other for 14 years. Anyway I bumped into her the other day and it was like seeing a long lost sister, we stood in the street and chatted for over an hour! I am so glad that the past is behind us and that she is back in my life
bubblegum I love it when you see someone and you know that even though years have passed the relationship feels the same.
sparkling, you friend sounds like she was a true diamond, thank goodness for her :)
Sally, I agree I haven't made any new friends in a while and think that I am going to make more of an effort, especially now my daughter is going out more and more and I don't need to be at home in the evenings. Time for new hobbies!
In my twenties and thirties I had some best friend types, people I hung about with all the time, but I never had any resposabilities, I was a student quite a lot and appart from being a bus driver for four years didn't realy have proper jobs, just this and that hear and there.
And then I met the mother of my children and had kids and not wanting to sound all corny and such it is my children who are now my best friends for all intents and purpose anyway, for the time beeing at least, I just hang about with them (they still don't mind me hanging about with them) go to work, come back and hang about with them : )
My sister has always 'been there' for me though. Once when we had been having a drink all sat around the table, kids friends and everything that song by The Hollies... He aint heavy came on the radio or the CD, what ever we were listening to and my sister said... 'when I hear that song I think of you'
Aww, even your sister knows how to rub you up the right way 
, she sounds like she has been a great support over the years, is she older or younger than you?
I love hanging out with my daughter too, we really do have the best of times Do you ever invite other adults around to yours though bubblegum? Do you get on with your childrens friends parents?
My sister is younger than my by eighteen months, just she did school, form 6, university and then got a job, unlike me : ) And unlike me she is finasialy secure with a paid off morgadge and a couple of cars, goes to Greece three times a year and can affort a couple of bottle of Chateauneuf du pape when ever she feels the desire.
Never invite other adults round.
I kind of know some of my kids friends parents, I've been to a coupld of parties, I used to hang about with one woman quite a bit, her daughter was friends with both my kids, she had a big house with lots of people in and out, I worked for her a bit too, she ran a creche... but then she started getting a bit 'heavy' which made me feel uncomfortable, I don't want all that in my life and I don't like people touching me.
I dont realy have much in common with anyone I know right now, I never have much to talk about with any of them, I don't know anyone into all the stuff I'm into and I'd much rather be on my own realy, appart from my kids of course.
: )
I was having a think over Christmas and I realised that there is a vacancy in my life for a new friend. I then thought, oh what would I want in a new friend and say if I was going to draw up a job description, what would that look like? I have a lot of fairly recent friends in my life but it was interesting thinking about whether I would want a really close relationship with any of them, there is one lady who is lovely, but then I think she is lovely to everyone anyway!
I have to admit that I have a review of friends every so often to see if any of the relationships are feeling unhealthy or draining. Good friendships are like a see-saw, there will be times when each of you needs the other more and needs support then time moves on and the see-saw swings the other way. Talked about this with one of my bezzies the other day, we have been friends for 14 years now and it's a really good relationship.
Interesting Thread Anna,
I have a group of great friends now that i can't imagine not being in my life, those that have fallen by the wayside have done so for a reason, its not that we fell out more like drifted a part, i have two friends that i have known a long time one i have known 28 years the other for 23.
Your thread has got me thinking though that i have not really made any new friends in quite a while!