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You may have seen in the news about this new law, which has been rolled out nationwide after trials in pilot areas. Basically, you can ask the police if a partner has a record of domestic violence.
Read more about it here (click)
Yes, this seems like good news but:
1. It pre-supposes that if a person finds out there is indeed violence in the partner's background then they will just leave. We know how hard this is, so many of us have just stayed with abusive partners anyway (myself included) as it takes a long time to break away. I suppose if we found out earlier in the relationship then it could be a bit easier?
2. If a person does not have a record of DV, that does not mean that they will not be a perpetrator in the future...we still need to use our own instincts.
What do you think?
IMO if you found out early in a relationship it may make the warning signs easier to notice/ less inclined to ignore them as we do.
i was alarmed to find out that I they tell the person who is being checked out ( the possible perpetrator ) before they have revealed info to the person requesting the info- this IMO could prove dangerous.
however I feel its best to have this available,
That is bad, thank you for the information LaDame
Hi LaDame, where did you hear that the 'potential perpetrator' would be informed that they were being investigated? That sounds like a major flaw in the new law.
I find it difficult to read that it was believed that 'Clare' would have left her partner if she had known that he had been previously violent.........we make so many excuses for our abusive partners to ourselves and to others, we try and understand why he/she behave like they do, we may even have been told by our partner themselves when they had been violent before (it always being the other person's fault) and sided with the perp. It will be interesting to read the outcomes of this Law in a years time to see how effective it has been.
In saying that though, I think it is a positive change and hopefully keeps raising the issue of abuse behind closed doors.
I'm with you on that Anna, we do have to keep raising the issues of Abuse.
You will find that what LaDame refers to is in the article Anna, they will notifiy the person being investigated, this is something that is a real worry as if they are abusive that could potentially put someone at risk!
Thanks for clarifying that Sally, I didn't see that written in the article. Very concerning.
I am pleased to hear that if Police are called out to a violent domestic incident, that they are able to inform the victim if the partner is on the register. That would be helpful I think.
I think it is, on paper, an excellent idea. And in the case of Clare, had she known the history she would have walked away.
However, perhaps one partner is going to fall in love with the other, see a behaviour pattern and then check. By then, being in love you will possibly see a familar pattern develop.
For Clare's family this is amazing and wonderful, and even if it helps one person to open their eyes, check and see what might happen, then it will be fantastic.