Hi there,
I have two children, and the father has never supported me financial on a regular basis and only giving money when he wants to..... I have let this go on for far too long now and when I ask for some support from him its always yes but nothing ever come of it..... I dont want to be gready but he always finds money to still go out, buy fancy cars and the like. I have always worked and my partner always helps where he can but I feel I should be getting some help from the father. In short if he is in work then I want some kind of regular maintenance, how can I put this into practice.
sorry neant does he have regular contact - i cant spell today x
Hi,
Iv not tried CSA yet as he works for himself and I was led to beleve that I couldnt go down that route, he doesnt have regular contact but when hes got nothing better to do he will pop up.
Im not asking him to pay loads just little and often would be good, but after 15 years of fighting iv had enough now.
He just says he will pack in working so he dont have to pay.
Hi
Personally I would go to the csa as if he has a decent busines set up he wont give it up - ive heard it before (had 2 exs).
Something is better than nothing. Im sure he wanted the children as much as you so he should support them even if it just allows for the odd treat - the little i get doesnt even cover the food bill for my son.
I ended up using the csa and can honestly say they are not as bad as people make out
Cost nothing to enquire does not affect any benefits or tax credits like it used to so anything you get is a bonus
HM x
Thanks for that,
I dont get any benefits as iv always worked so it wont interfere with them, he just p***** me off, as he thinks he can get away with it, but no more..... im fed up with him.
(sorry for the rant) 
same here and the forums are great for a good old rant. I work too (on my lunch at the moment) Even more reason to get something off him I think these fathers (or mothers) who wont pay should be named and shamed on the side of buses or bill boards
HM x
HI,
I agree, he thinks im just trying to rip him off
Hello Vodka050 and welcome to One Space.
It is always good to try to come to an arrangement between you and your ex first, when this is not productive then you can try the other alternatives.
Here is a link to our Money/Debt Expert they maybe able to give you some pointers of things you can do before you go down the CSA route. I am also putting in a link for our CSA Expert so that you can get any questions about that answered too.
Do your children have contact with their dad?
Hi
Yes when he can be bothered to turn up, but its very hit and miss.
thanks for the link
will have a read through after tea
I know slightly how your feeling.. My ex made himself redundant as not to pay maintenance... Got 30k plus... My 3 children now receive nil. Csa can't help as he has no viable income and he can't sign on as he left his job and has to much capital saved... Very unfair. Im living on 153.00 a wk. Well not living tbh. Thinking of U. Best wishes alfie x
Hi there Alf1975 and welcome to the forums, do email our CSA expert (click), she has many years experience and she may be able to find a way of helping you. Especially as he has capital, click the blue link to email her.
Hi Vodka050, did you make any decisions on how to move forward with this? I think happy mamma is right, lots of non resident parents threatened to quit their jobs, but actually that is no skin of our nose is it, if we aren't receiving anything anyway!
Alf1975 were you receiving any maintenance before your ex was made redundant?
Thanks Anna. Will do xx and yes was getting maintenance each month.
That is shocking Alf1975, I hope that our CSA expert will come up with something clever to tackle this issue. Do the children see him?
Yes they see him 4 days per month.. Im still trying hard to not let myself scream at his name.. Its difficult. I don't want his redundant money just something each month. As per the law... Im not a bitter ex wife I just want the children to have what their entitled to...
Oh he's on holiday in las Vegas next week. Kids have no maintenance but he's on holiday and kids don't have a say guess I'm getting slightly bitter.. :'( xxx
Hi Alf1975, the bitterness is totally understandable. However, one thing I have realised is that feeling bitter (which I did for many years) was only hurting me and not the one who had acted wrongly and it did not solve things....so by NOT feeling bitter, the one you are setting free is yourself. Hope you get some good news from the expert!
Hi Vodka050
Silly question but have you tried the CSA? Doe she have regular contsct with the children.
Im having issues with my ex as he lies about his income but works for his friend who 'fixes' his wages.
I dont understand anyone who does nit want to support their own child
HM x