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hi im new to this site but looking for urgent help.
ive been fighting for my son for the past 3years after he got taken away by his mum out of tge blue from our family home and moved 130 miles away ive kept phone contact and see my son half of all holidays and i was having him every other weekend up untill a yr ago but now have him stay once a month and half of all holidays. hes 8yrs old and all hes wanted since he got taken from all his friends family home and his dad is to move home and hes getting more vocal now over it but when seen by cafcass when they were doing there section 7 report he bottled up and didnt say he wanted to live here but said he didnt mind where he lived etc he told me his mum had told him not to say stuff to cafcass or she would be unhappy. he was only seen once where his mum took him and was close when he spoke to them hes stated his scared and doesnt want to upset her. the report was very biased to the mother and J was only seen the once and family home where i live wasnt visited and i wasnt seen with J either and my concernes of J being scared manipulated and menraly abused wernt looked at or taken seriously. also the court seems very biased aswell as its away from my home location but close to cafcass there. my barrister doesnt get much time to prepare as i have to have a barrister from near tge court. is there abyway of changing the court location nearer to myself as i have a solicitor who represents me but cant travel due to me being on legal aid and my ex wife is representing herself. i feel i havent had a fair chance for a fair hearing and all im trying to do is whats best for my son. pleade can someone help
hi many thanks for your comment.
i used to be with families need fathers but have to pay a membership and i just dont have the extra funds. with regards to caffcass there protocol on websites is to see the child alone and also with both parents seperatly and also see where the applicant lives but none of this was done. but 3yrs ago when i went for residence i was seen with my son as was his mim and he was seen alone but this time its different and J opens up to family members friends etc where he feels comfortable away from his mum. and ive been advised hes being told not to tell caffcass and school etc anything about living with myself.
we tried mediation but my ex wife stormed out of it. she had agreed to let my son move down when he is 11 but that has now changed then she agreed to 13 and now gone back on that its like hitting my head against a wall ive not had a fair case ftom the start
I can see that you have had a lot of problems with everything that has happened. Families Need Fathers does indeed ask for £35 for a year's membership. As you are on Legal Aid and therefore not paying any fees to your solicitor then they are probably the best one to ask? They also are the ones with the best knowledge of how the system works.
ive been advised ive no chance to get a ruling in my favour as the cafcass report was so one sided and seeing joeys home etc wgere i live wasnt undertaken etc and he wasnt seen away from both parents has made it hard to open up expecialy as hes made it clear hes scared to upset mummy
That's awful. The system....we see so many ways it works against people as I said.
i believe alot is down to mental and emotionsl abuse that hes not opening up as hes allways been so open down here even if im not around yet there hes said hes scared of mummy shouting and swearing at him etc :-(
all i want is whats best for my son and want him to be happy and grow into a happy loved youngg man but the system is awfull and dont look at the bigger picture but only whats infront of them.
I would also recommend dad.info, they have a team of experts and there is no fee to join.
thank you i had never heard of them so will try ill try anything to make sure my sons wellfair and happiness is maintained but believe hes subject to emotional and mental abuse
Hello Jamie T82
It is unlikely you can transfer the court location. As for CAFCASS, they do only see the child once and when you say your son bottled up, sometimes the questions they are asked will not encourage a child to open up!!
I recommend that you contact Families Need Fathers for advice about your situation. Unfortuately you do have to work within the existing system, although we see many flaws in it from all sides of the coin on here.....children being forced to have contact with violent parents, parents such as yourself being kept away from their children and the authorities seeming unable (or unwilling?) to assess the true situation.
Would your son's mum go to mediation with you? As you live so far away from each other it not a practical option to share care 50-50 but maybe you could have him more of the time?