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Hi,
Just wanted to share with you that I received the CAFCASS report yesterday, it is in my favour, CAFCASS have recommended that resident order stays with me and contact order for dad remains as it is (3 hours every Sunday).
Hi englishrose
Nice to see you again and thank you for the update, that is brilliant news that the resident order and the contact order have stayed the same, I bet that is a huge relief for you. I also hope that it means that your ex now knows exactly where he stands and doesn't try any future tricks.
Hopefully too this means that your daughter can settle down into a routine with a mummy who can now move on from all of this.
littleangel, CAFFCASS will get in touch with you when they are ready to do the report. Don't worry, they will not turn up unannounced.
Try not to get too anxious about it, what will be will be. Have a look at this Factsheet, which tells you what to expect (although it doesn't give timings)
hello little angel,
Ex husband took daughter out of my care on Jan 22, on Jan 24 I had an emergency court hearing, where i was given temporary resident order, and dad was given contact order (even though i had never refused contact).
On May 14 CAFCASS did a home visit to me it took two and a half hours. CAFCASS spoke very gently with daughter they asked her questions but it was in a pleasant tone of voice and in a conversational style mixed with general chat, it wasn't scary at all. Daughter was absolutely fine with it all. CAFCASS report received May 26 so I only waited 13 days. My final court hearing is in August when the judge makes the final decision, but i would be very surprised if judge did not follow the recommendations of CAFCASS.
Hope this helps
Hello Anna,
Huge relief to have the report. Only problem is ex husband(RAT) and his ex-fiancee (MOLE) are saying to me they will still pursue their claim for a residency order in spite of report. In the report they say they are a couple (How can i prove otherwise for purpose of court hearing in August?) He has told me on several occasions that they are not a couple, and daughter has told me who has been around on her contact visit and it includes the man RAT tells me is the new MOLE partner. Friends of mine have suggested that their lying is to cover up that they want residency so they can get council to house them and to get the child benefit, child tax credit. Quite plausible as they can't cope with paying rent in private sector and have been evicted from their flat, and are living in MOLES relative's home rent free. I'm staying positive and not worrying about what they are going to do.
Ty englishrose x
So glad you got a favourable report and sorry to hear what you ex husband did x
Hi english rose, you can't really prove they are not a couple, unless you had the woman followed by a private detective....not to be recommended. What you can do is to speak to your solicitor and tell them this information so it can be passed on to CAFACSS/the court.
thanks Louise.
Good plan, trying not to worry what their next move may be. Getting on with your life is the important thing now.
Hopefully the judge will recognise that your ex is causing a stir for his own benefit not for the sake of his daughter.
Hello english rose, has the contact settled down for your daughter now?
Hello Louise,
Things have settled down now and regular contact is maintained. Initially after RAT had seen the CAFCASS report and was angry about it, he would sound off and shout at me at the handover (not in front of daughter - she would be taken by MOLE first), but after a few weeks RAT has gone back to normal - no shouty nonsense just normal conversation. I had the courage to refuse RAT to see daughter a couple of weeks ago when he was in casualty as I thought it would be upsetting for daughter, my solicitor agreed I did the right thing when I phoned her later that week.
I have had a letter from my solicitor setting out what RAT's solicitor proposes regarding future contact. RAT wants to have overnight contact from Friday after school until Sunday evening once a month, then 3 hour contact on the other Sundays. I have said no to that at present, and want to wait until August for judge to decide. CAFCASS officer said she did not recommend any overnight stays, so I'm not giving him something the professionals don't recommend!!
I am glad things are calmer, english rose and you will just have to see what is decided..after all what they are proposing is two consecutive nights which seems a big jump from none!
Hi englishorse, Glad to hear your CAFCASS report was favourable. I just wondered if I could ask you a few questions as I am currently awaiting CAFCASS to come in and do a report for me. Firstly, how long did it take from you court heraing to receiving report? How many visits did CAFCASS do? Were you pre warned of visits or did they just turn up unannounced? How did they go about questioning your child(ren)?
Sorry to bombard you hun, but I have been getting very anxious about it all and have tried a million times in vain to contact my CAFCASS officer but he never returns any calls. My report is due to be done for court on 15 Aug but I have no idea how long it will take them to put the report together so not sure when to expect a visit. Any info will be much appreciated x