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There is a really amazing film called Mary & Max about the relationship between a small girl in Australia and a man with aspergers in America set over a long period of time via letters, my kids loved it though maybe some parents might not like some of the adult content.
I can't say how good it is, excellent observations on life and people and stuff : )
Surprisingly, there's so much I can relate to.
Beautifully done, and the Mother is brilliant with her replies.
It's difficult when you try to tell your son that their mind can work differently.
My son has the same feeling with friends. He gets very hurt when his best friend will spend time with others. Son is excluded at this point, as he will "drone" on. Best friend feels it when with others.
Yet yesterday evening, his best friend arrives, and they're out on their bikes. Best friend understands that son needs to be with someone - lot of pressure, but really I think his best friend has realised this since they became friends in nursery school.
They spent a while on the computer after. Son happy, and abject misery of finding them playing football without him forgotten.
It's so hard trying to explain why.
I like the way the Mother said she's learnt so much from her son. I have from C. I think I understand people more, and can actually reason why some behave that way (although it doesn't apply to The Git - he's just a git - it does actually apply to my friend who keeps pushing it...!!). Doubt it's made me a better person, but this is a reason why I would, in some way, like to work with youngsters.
Once again Bubblegum, you have come up with a moving link. I always enjoy opening these links.
PS My son's obsession was spiders (his obsessions go in cycles, now he's older it's aircraft (military usually), hornby railway and ships).
One morning he'd disappeared. He was 9 and had climed over the 6' back gate, which was locked. We looked for ages and gave up - the older two had to get to school, and I took a chance that he'd walked to school. Dropped youngest off and ran in to the school.
His one-to-one came with me to search. We found him on an estate further down from where we live. I was virtually hysterical by then. My son "come an look at this car. It has 8 spiders". He happily showed us the spiders - including the 2 living under the wheel arch.
One-to-one hugged me, I took him home to get dressed (in PJs) and have breakfast and he happily went into school about an hour late!
He just can't help himself, I know. I'm fortunate in that my older two (and now youngest) understand that when he goes missing we need to find him. Sometimes, we do know where to start...
Great thread, this 
There is a bit in Mary and Max where Max explains that he doesn't want to be 'cured' because he doesn't think there is anything wrong with him, or something along those lines anyway, can't remember exactly.
A friend of my sisters who we have known since school has a son with aspergers, he's all grown up now and has a child of his own but he and his mum went through a lot, he was always getting into trouble with the police and he has absolutely no understanding of his own fragility and did mad things and hurt himself, like jumping of walls, stepping from moving cars or what ever.
My daughter went with my sister to a party in their house a while back and was very drawn to him and they interacted well, apparently.
But anyway, he said something along those lines to his mum once, that this is me and I don't want to be 'cured' All those people labelling him and telling him that there is something wrong with him, he's just him.
We are all different we all exist somewhere along a line between A to Z, personally I find the the people furthest away from M and N to be more interesting.
He wouldn't be who he is if he wasn't as he was - if you get my drift
lovely link. i enjoyed that, it is certainly true that our Asperger children make us think outside the box! Luckily i am aperson that always had thought outside the box but it has still been challenging.
Nice challenging though
That was lovely, and very moving. Brought tears to my eyes actually.