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I'm very good at moaning, I've decided. If there was a degree to be had in this, I'd get a first with honours.
I've been running around so much with the children this weekend and standing so much that today I can hardly walk. Up early - only because I can''t sleep as my mind is spinning. Can't even manage to get into the bath to have a shower today, so a scrub has had to do.
Eldest had texted The Git Thursday (or was it Wednesday?) to see if he would pay for his theory test. To be honest this was down to me. I figured that as I was paying for a considerable number of his lessons, and as The Git has said that when eldest passess his test he can drive down there, why not ask?? So eldest has a text yesterday morning to go and help load the van.
Did The Git pay for a theory test? Of course not.
He has no money.
Not even the decency to tell me he's going. Yet again no contact details. If there is ever an emergency with the children I would not be able to contact him.
I feel the need to text a message to him. Something like:
"I believe you are leaving the area. I also believe that the CSA payments of £3 per child, per week will be stopping. Not a word from you to inform me of this (not a surprise).
As you choose to avoid all responsibility, I will no longer be available for you to contact with matters regarding the children. You have not answered any requests to call me since 2007 and I accept that you have no wish to be involved in the lives of our children - other than your terms - as you have consistently failed to meet their needs for the last four years. As J is now 18, he will be the second point of contact in an emergency, rather than your father"
I have a bottle of wine. There was an offer in Tesco, so I bought one for the lovely man who took them up Snowdon, and the second for me. I might open it on Wednesday - which will be the date I got married - and divorced 
- as I know he'll be gone. Eldest seems to think he'll be going today...
Is that a reasonable text to send?
Is it better not to send one at all - yet I do feel the need...
Can I send The Gittess a vile text to say how wonderful the feeling is, knowing that I'll be able to shop in Asda without the chance of bumping into her nastines... And to say the worse thing that happend to the children was The Git meeting her, as up to that point, he had been a reasonably consistent person in their lives....
As you can see, it is very much on my mind.
Use the key board.. Highlight some text and then...
Ctrl+c = Copy
Place the cursor where you want it to go and...
Ctrl+v = Paste
Also..
Ctrl+x = Cut
Here are some more.
Hi sparkling lime
It is not for me to tell you what to do, BUT.......it feels to me as if texting anything at all is just demonstrating that you have been affected by what he does and doesn't do. Don't give them the satisfaction.Write a letter to each of them and then burn it. If they choose not to give you emergency contact details then that is up to them, you have done your best.
When you crack open your bottle, toast yourself for the brilliant parent you have been, are and will continue to be!
Thank you.
I won't.
I'm actually going to switch the phone off on Wednesday, which was the day I got married and, more importantly, the date of my divorce 
So, its a significant date - why not use it as the day I stopped the avenue of communication....
Hi Sparkling. I know how tempted you are with regard to the texting, but that gives him the satisfaction of knowing that he still can get to you. Silence is golden
Good for you getting a bottle of wine. Cheers.
xxx
Good for you!
why is it that I cannot copy and paste on One Space?
With the CSA bit
I also believe that the CSA will stop. Mind you, it is a pittance and a disgrace when it comes to supporting four wonderful children who deserve every chance in life.