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Twenty six years ago today I got married
Six years ago I had my decree absolute
This year I have switched off the mobile that I've used for The Git
I actually feel quite anxious about switching off the phone. Having discussed things with my eldest, as in yes, he did help load the van on Sunday, and The Git (I don't call The Git The Git with the children...) drove there on Sunday, coming back on Monday to pick up his car and The Gittess. So, I'm guessing that its safe to assume that they have gone. He does have our address and the landline number.
He hasn't returned any calls after messages have been left for over three and a half years now, the only communications being about him wanting to see the children the following day by text (24 hours notice due to consistent breaking of contact agreement), other than the nightmares of the birthdays.
I'm assuming all forms of contact has now ended, as he has not updated me with any information. Youngest is now 11.
Any comments from the children will not be met by a positive response from me.
I spoke to my ex-father-in-law on Thursday to let him know the eldest has got into college. He sounded so frail. All of this cannot be helping his health.
I so want to celbrate, yet don't feel able to.
Sorry for the moidering.
Hello sparkling lime
It's not surprising you were not quite able to celebrate. All the years of disinterestedness are enough to wear anyone down.
I presume that he will have some sort of contact with the children but you will have to wait and see. What a shame for them though, thank heavens they have you as their wonderful mother!
Anniversaries can be emotional times, and I understand that, but really the way we regard things that happen in our lives affect us every day, not just on the anniversary and for you now, it is time to feel a sense of relief as the weight lifts off your shoulders and you move into a new stage of things.
AHHHHH! 
But should I leave the phone on incase he turns up at the weekend??
It is off now and in the drawer. I'm hoping I'll just forget about it being there...
Have your children got mobiles? If he turns up, then he can contact them through their phones, just a thought.
Hope you're ok. How are the kids doing?
Sparkling, you go ahead later and open that bottle. You have every reason to celebrate. The Git is gone, and you can now get on with your own life, bringing the children up, (as you have done for years). No more looking over your shoulder, now that's something to drink too.
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