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Advice needed re my pre-teen

pancakequeen
DoppleMe

They were in bits....their first reaction was they didn't want to see him again...but they've calmed down now.

You're right Anna, he does view their visits as a treat, he doesn't think he should have to parent them as its all about having fun.

Part of me is glad that they have given him a hard time, because there are times when you'd think the sun shone out of his a***e, is that really mean of me Innocent.

Posted on: December 5, 2012 - 10:50pm

sparklinglime
DoppleMe

The Git used to do that when he had this lot...  At least they get consistency with you pq...  No that's no help though.xx

Posted on: December 6, 2012 - 8:51am

sparklinglime
DoppleMe

And its not mean of you to think that.  However, their view of the sun shining out of his backside may not change.  Mine think The Git is wonderful (and I so wish they didn't)

Posted on: December 6, 2012 - 8:52am

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

I am sorry PQ, please forgive me but I had to snigger that he has had to face up to what you are dealing with day in, day out.

However, although you quite rightly think "huh! he is not doing much parenting!", by bringing them home he has shown them that their behaviour is not acceptable and I would be inclined to cash in on this like mad. You could say something like "well your dad does not find X acceptable and I must say I agree with him" and look rather severe. The parent of a teen needs always to find a way to turn circumstance into opportunity heh heh

Posted on: December 6, 2012 - 8:54am

pancakequeen
DoppleMe

I know what you mean louise, i just think its a shame they had to miss out on their time with him, especially as he sees them for such a short period of time.

Posted on: December 6, 2012 - 9:34am

Sally W
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Oh how frustrating that their dad did not deal with their behaviour, but from what you have said in the past of him it's pretty much is to be expected.

How were things this morning?

Posted on: December 7, 2012 - 1:02pm

pancakequeen
DoppleMe

Sally you are so right!

Service as normal here for now Smile

Posted on: December 7, 2012 - 2:20pm