hi,my names karen been single for 7 months feeling depressed and would like to meet new friends maybe there is a kind honest and FAITHFUL man out there who would like to meet me and see where it goes from there.Ive been hurt in the past and find it hard to trust men.I know all men are not the same.I recently moved and have no friends i know what a saddo.

Posted on: September 23, 2011 - 1:21pm

Hi karen1234. Welcome along to One Space. You've only been single for 7 months, so why not take time out for just you. There are lots of kind, honest and faithful men out there, and one day am sure you'll meet one. How many children do you have? Are they school age? Look forward to 'chatting'.

Posted on: September 23, 2011 - 1:43pm

Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi karen1234, welcome to One Space from me too!

I am sorry to hear you are feeling depressed.

I agree with hazeleyes, you have not been single for long, it is time to learn more about yourself, find confidence, lift your spirits and learn how to enjoy your own time.

No man worth being with, is going to want to go out with someone who is depressed. AND no man is going to make your life better (ok, maybe it will feel good for a short time, but on the whole, you need to find your own happiness first to have a successful relationship)

Are you working at the moment? If you children are younger do you go to playgroups?

Posted on: September 23, 2011 - 2:21pm


Hi karen1234

Good to see you here.  It's a great board for advice, support and company.

Posted on: September 24, 2011 - 5:10pm


Hi Karen,

Good to see you here, 7 months is still very early on.  I made the mistake of getting into a relationship fiarly quickly after splitting from my ex, that didnt work out and I think I should have focused on me and my kids at the time.  I have been messed around a lot by guys aswell, but i do keep telling myself that there is someone decent out there.  This site is a great source of support though x

Posted on: September 24, 2011 - 5:56pm



Hi Karen, as others have said this is a great place for support...

Posted on: September 25, 2011 - 9:15pm


Ha Karen, good to have you around.

Posted on: September 25, 2011 - 9:41pm


Hi, I'm S. I don't usually hang out in chatrooms, but hey, it's good to do something new sometimes. I have been a single parent for sixteen months. I have one child in secondary school, and one still in primary.

Now that I am over the first year of single parenthood, and have come to terms with my situation, I'm interested in chatting with others in similar situations.

Over the summer holidays, my children and I enjoyed a fantastic week away with a charity that supports, amongst other groups, single parent families. We spent a week in Snowdonia with thirty-five other single parents and kids. Apart from the wonderful scenary and activities, we were able to really 'take a break', as the children were taken care of. It was good to spend time in the company of other single parents, and not feel as if we were the only family without a Dad with us. I

And I'd just like to talk to other single mums, for support, tips and chat. Look forward to your posts.





Posted on: September 25, 2011 - 10:03pm


Hi Sarah, welcome along to One Space. This is a great group for support and advice should you need it. Your holiday sounds lovely, I'll have a look at the website.

I've got one son, just turned 9, and have been on my own since the pregnancy, so don't know any different really. C doesn't see his father, though he did get a birthday card from him earlier this month, (shock, horror). He's never got a Christmas card or present, but it's something my son is very used too, and doesn't bother him.

Do your children have regular contact with their Dad?

Posted on: September 25, 2011 - 10:16pm



Hello S,that week in Snowdonia sounds really lovely.

Posted on: September 25, 2011 - 10:26pm

Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi foxy 1975

Welcome to One Space

I have edited your post as there was a lot of publicity in it about the particular charity you mention. If this charity would like to be included in the events/organsations for single parents, please apply to the main office.

Hope that you are able to joln us in discussing day to day life as a single parent

Posted on: September 26, 2011 - 8:08am


Hi foxy 1975.  That break in Snowdonia sounds fantastic!

Posted on: September 26, 2011 - 8:55am


Hi guys. Thanks for welcoming me. I do realise that my first post was a bit of a plug for a particular organisation, but it was just something good I had experienced as a single parent that I wanted to share. I don't work for them or anything! ;)

My children do enjoy regular contact with their Dad, so we are lucky really, I suppose. It isn't easy though. He lives 60 miles away, doesn't drive, and tends to arrive later than he says and blames the trains!! Of course I realise that it takes a huge a effort on his part to maintain contact, and am grateful that he bothers at all. But there are the usual issues - that he gets to 'treat' the children on Saturday afternoons (and of course they think he's wonderful) while I am the one struggling with the day-to-day care and organisation. My ex-husband is not available to help with practical issues around childcare, parents evenings, taking the children to parties, etc, or anything useful like that. I feel that I do the bulk of the work alone.

He also has a girlfriend, about 15 years younger than himself (and me!) who he got together with pretty soon after our split (although it took him a while to get round to telling me that).

What has helped is that his parents and I are able to maintain a positive relationship. We have had a few awkward moments, but on the whole they have been supportive, and have carried on being grandparents in the way they always have. They also live far away from us, but do take an interest in their grandchildren's lives.

I do still find the issues around contact very hard to deal with, sixteen months on from our split. My solicitor suggested that we use mediation, but at £160 for an initial meeting, that just isn't going to happen! (If I had that kind of money to spare, I'd rather do something nice for me and the children).

I guess that everyone finds their own pattern and way of dealing with contact issues after a while. We are still working on our Deed of Separation, it has taken ages to sort everything out. I'm looking forward to that being complete, 'done and dusted', as they say.

Posted on: September 26, 2011 - 2:52pm

Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi again foxy1975

I must say that the cost of mediation does seem to be very high and only those on Income Support or a very low income appear to be exempt although the actual charge seems to vary from area to area.

It's great that the children still have a good relationship with their grandparents (my boys are 22 and 17 now and have always kept in contact with their grandparents, though I divorced their son when they were only nine and three) 

I can well imagine that you will be glad when it is all over, it is such a long process.

Welcome to One Space anyway, I hope you find the website useful and informative.

Posted on: September 26, 2011 - 5:52pm


Thanks Louise. Hello sparklinglime, C, Mich and Hazeleyes too! I have been browsing through the threads. I'm kind of new to this, so had trouble finding my post again!! Feel free to point me in the right direction if I post in the wrong place or anything...

I very much enjoyed reading the thread about the positive side of single parenthood. Lots of those comments rang true, and brought a smile to my face! It is good to be able to celebrate our independence and confidence, isn't it? and I really don't miss finding my ex-husband's bits of chewed-off toenail on the bedroom carpet!

This website is very useful. I wish I had found it months ago, but am glad to have it now. :)


Posted on: September 26, 2011 - 9:51pm



Blimey! £160...that IS expensive.....Don't know now if I can afford that either...as my husband and I have to have mediation next too suggested by my Solicitor...

Posted on: September 26, 2011 - 9:58pm


Sorry to have made you panic, Mich! The costs I mentionned were those of a local organisation that were recommended by my solicitors. They might not be typical of all mediators. And (this is really depressing!) the mediators are much cheaper than trying to sort these kinds of issues out through solicitors.

I think it is terrible that these services cost so much. The people who need them most - those who are in difficult situations - are unlikely to be able to afford to pay such huge fees. It just seems, from my point of view, that these organisations profit from people at a very vulnerable time in their lives. And that's on top of the money we have to pay the solicitors!

On the other hand, some people say that mediation really does help a lot with their situation, so I hope that you find some good mediators, Mich. They will have to be, at the price they charge, I guess... Good luck.




Posted on: September 27, 2011 - 10:06pm

Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi foxy1975

Glad you are enjoying the site Smile

Hello Mich

Do check the cost of the mediation. It does vary from area to area but is normally still cheaper than the hourly cost of a solicitor, and mediation has a very valuable place in the scheme of things. One thing the government is currently considering is to make a few sessions compulsory if a couple is splitting up. Surely then at least it would be means tested?

Posted on: September 28, 2011 - 8:39am



Hmmnn yes thanks...He would have to pay as I really don't have that money, so that might put him off....( It might be better when I know what Tax credits I can get)...

Posted on: September 28, 2011 - 7:43pm