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NEW TO PAGE Looking for advice, am age 27, I've 3 girls: M 5 next March, Br will be 3 in january and A turned one friday passed.
My 2 oldest are a nightmare bitching fighting screaming its constant even to the point of A now doing it. I got into the rut of buying them stuff in shops just to make them be quiet.
They are so spoilled I need to stop this and quick they are controlling me, my depression is that bad ive to see a mental health specialist on the 17th any advice would be fantastic
Hi thanks for the help on post,
Their dad and I are seperated but he staying with me until x mas.
Yeah ive a mental health doctor assessing me for new deoression tablets as my other ones (CYMBOLTA) short name.
I don't really get out much because the kids dont behave and I end up having panick attacks
I have 2 friends supporting ne but they have their own family x
hello from me too.
Keeping them occupied can take some planning. My lot seemed to enjoy colouring, so i always had loads of paper and crayons about.
I hope you are having support from your health visitor. Perhaps there is support, such as Sure Start in your area, which could make a difference.
This board can be such good company.
I do a lot of arts and crafts with them, colouring painting paper mashy
play days, storys, baking. Cozying up with dvds(snuggle days)
They get bored affa easy xx
Any new ideas would be a help xx
Hi dollsPHD and welcome along to One space,
The activities sound great. Do you have a garden that they can run around in, they have so much energy at this age that they need to burn off.
What about dad does he help at all? and sorry another question, what are the consequences for bad behaviour?
Hi sally
they get warning once then put to the thinking step for m is 4 minutes br is 2 mins
then they say sorry
dad is u.s he works all day and does nothing eith them later on xx
Yes I have a big gardn but where we live alot of druggies
and needles have been found in the top of my back garden b4 xx
Hello again, I feel sure that the girls are reacting to what is going on, and once dad has gone you can make a fresh start with them as you will the the only adult and can be in charge of the household and the family atmosphere. Where is he moving to and why not until Xmas? I expect there are difficulties still living in the same house
Hello dollsPHD and welcome along
You have a lot on your plate with three children under 5 so first of all cut yourself some slack.No-one, and I mean no-one, will have a calm household in these circumstances! However, there is help we can give you improve things.
Firstly, I have removed your name and your children's names, please do not use these, just put initials, we ask this for the sake of confidentiality, thanks.
Secondly, can I ask how long you have been on your own with the girls, when did you split up and do they have the same dad and do they see their dad(s)?
Thirdly, tell us a bit more about your appointment, you are suffering from depression, who will you be seeing to help with this, is it a psychiatrist or a community nurse? Do you have some medication to help with your depression?
Finally, a couple of basic things to start you off....do you manage to get any support from your Health Visitor and are youable to get out with the girls to any toddler-type groups to meet other parents, that really, really helps if you can manage it.
We can give you some set strategies to try, and support you along the way. Sorry to ask so many questions, it is just so we can get a clearer picture and help you better, take care and lots of deep breaths