single mummy

My husband and i have been married since july '06 and tried for a baby early last year, we found out we were expecting in april and our little boy was born january this year. However 2 weeks before his birth i found eveidence of him having an affair. He admitted that he had been having an affair for the last 10 months so it started before we tried for a baby and we had only been married 7 months, i know the girl and thought she was a friend and he is her manager at work. After 10 weeks of me offering a chance of sorting things out as i still love him and want us to try and be a family he has decided he wants to be with the other girl. we have been together over 8 years and i don't know where to turn next, i miss him so much. I have great family and friends and they are supporting me and my little boy but wondered if anyone else is in a similar situation and could give me some words of wisdom?!!! We are going through the divorce process now as he has made it clear he thinks he loves this other person and that he doesn't think we will work out if we get back together but now he is being awkward about money for our house and bills and when he wants to see our son. I am going by what my solicitor says but its not easy when all i want is for us to be a family.

Well . Sorry to hear that. I am a single mom with two kids .I had the same probelm like yours at the beginning .That's agonizing....

Well ....single mom still have right to have love ,right ? So I beggan to enlarge my group.such as traving ,chatting with others who are in the same trouble on the dating site called  singleparentloving.com  , etc.

I think the time can remove the wound in your heart . So, cheer up ! Be a great mother,you need to fight with the destiny!

Hi Jessica

So sorry to hear this , good luck and con gratulations on the birth of your baby.

Stay strong and things will eventually come clear, obviously he doesn't deserve  you, if he went along with the planning of your child while playing away, what a rat...

Just take care and enjoy baby, time is a healer, sorry cliche but it is true, and you will be thinking what a lucky escape you had, from the cheating rat.

Previously Jessica wrote:

My husband and i have been married since july '06 and tried for a baby early last year, we found out we were expecting in april and our little boy was born january this year. However 2 weeks before his birth i found eveidence of him having an affair. He admitted that he had been having an affair for the last 10 months so it started before we tried for a baby and we had only been married 7 months, i know the girl and thought she was a friend and he is her manager at work. After 10 weeks of me offering a chance of sorting things out as i still love him and want us to try and be a family he has decided he wants to be with the other girl. we have been together over 8 years and i don't know where to turn next, i miss him so much. I have great family and friends and they are supporting me and my little boy but wondered if anyone else is in a similar situation and could give me some words of wisdom?!!! We are going through the divorce process now as he has made it clear he thinks he loves this other person and that he doesn't think we will work out if we get back together but now he is being awkward about money for our house and bills and when he wants to see our son. I am going by what my solicitor says but its not easy when all i want is for us to be a family.

Hi Jessica.  I'm in a similar position, although I was not married to my baby's father, we were engaged.  I was with him for over four years but two months after the arrival of our daughter in May 2007 I found out he had been seeing a girl at work.  I knew this girl and we had been friends.  I was heartbroken and couldn't believe I had been left a single mother.  He is still with this girl and I have had to face many hurdles like accepting her in my daughter's life, her moving into my former home and now their engagement.  It is difficult and only now do I feel I am 'moving on' .  I still have days when I feel low and miss him but I have my little girl and she brings sunshine into every day.  He has regular contact with our daughter for which I am grateful as it enables me to get on with my life but I must admit that I find juggling everything very hard work.  Sometimes all I would like is some company in the evenings when I've put my little girl to bed.  I think that is what I miss the most.  Jenny

Hi Jessica & Jenny

My story is so very similar and it's quite frightening that this happens so often.  My ex was having an affair whilst I was pregnant with our second son, again, someone at work whom I knew.  After many tears, rows and counselling, he finally left when my baby was 3 months old!  That was 4 years ago and he's still with the same girl (10 yrs younger than me-and him!) and they're expecting a baby at Christmas.  I feel crushed.  Until now, my sons haven't been introduced to her but now I have to bite the bullet and let her into their lives.  I feel that we were the trial run and now he's going to put everything into this new family.  Friends have been so supportive and keep reassuring me that I'm so strong and have dealt with everything so well - I think on the whole, I have but I'm realising that this is never going to go away, there will always be something, some hurdle to overcome be it their engagement, wedding, more children...... but I've always been a positive person and I know I'll get through it all - as will you!