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HI Sam,
Welcome to the site!!
I'm J mum to little girl 5, and 2 grown up sons,look forward to reading and replying to your posts.
Take care
J xx
Previously SAMANTHA wrote:
Hi my name is Sam, I have just joined this site!
Hello Sam, my name is Anna, I am also new to this site.
hi - i'm jo and new to the site too. hoping to make some much needed freinds as i'm newly seperated and feeling very lost and alone right now, i can't be the only one out there! please tell me if there is light at the end of this very long and dark tunnel?!
There is light although I find that it dims sometimes. I've been single since the end of last September when my partner left me - I was 9 weeks pregnant. We've managed to become friends again but in a way that makes me feel even more lonely. Our relationship wasn't good but I find myself thinking sometimes that crap is better than nothing. Deep down I know this is far from the truth.
Anyway it is getting easier with time, my baby is due in 5 weeks and I'm both scared and excited. Time is the best healer and I know that in another 6 months I will be feeling more positive than I do now. I know a few single Mums, one whose partner left her 2 days before she gave birth. They have all coped very well and are happier now that when they were in their pervious relationships.
The biggest downside to having relationships is that they often end. I found myself looking at everyone else and thinking that their relationships were perfect and that I was some kind of freak. It's just not true and you need to experience the bad times to appreciate the good. I know it's a cliche but it is right.
I found pouring my heart out on forums like this one a huge help. Here you will find support and comfort when you may find it difficult to talk to friends and family who aren't going through the same thing. Just remember that a break up can take months and months to get over - I very much doubt that that's what you want to hear but facing up to reality helps. You will feel lost and lonely but it will pass, grieving for your relationship is important. Talk to people, cry, shout and scream if it helps - it will all get better with time.
It did also make me feel better knowing that I wasn't the only one going through shite like this - well you're not either. We're all struggling on and slowly making progress, so chin up girl - you're going to be fine, just like the rest of us.
xx
Hi there, I am another 'newbie' at this!! Separated from my husband 2 years ago, and found out 2 months later that he had moved in with a new girlfriend. I was back at work, and having to commute an hour every morning, so still having to rely on him to come round every morning and evening to cover the childcare. Found this too hard to deal with, so made the hard decision to move away from all my family and friends to be nearer work and get away from all the history. So, i am now 5 mins from work, am able to take my eldest to school and youngest to the childminder and can get home to cook them dinner every night!!
However being on my own here has made it so difficult to meet other single parents, and make friends, especially with working full time. I never realised how lonely you can get even with too gorgeous children around you, and just thinking that starts the guilt up!
Would love to hear from anyone in a similar situation, or anyone else out there!!
Hi there, I am another 'newbie' at this!! Separated from my husband 2 years ago, and found out 2 months later that he had moved in with a new girlfriend. I was back at work, and having to commute an hour every morning, so still having to rely on him to come round every morning and evening to cover the childcare. Found this too hard to deal with, so made the hard decision to move away from all my family and friends to be nearer work and get away from all the history. So, i am now 5 mins from work, am able to take my eldest to school and youngest to the childminder and can get home to cook them dinner every night!!
However being on my own here has made it so difficult to meet other single parents, and make friends, especially with working full time. I never realised how lonely you can get even with too gorgeous children around you, and just thinking that starts the guilt up!
Would love to hear from anyone in a similar situation, or anyone else out there!!
Hi Lucy,
Welcome to the site!
I'm J mum to little girl 6, and 2 grown up sons. I split form my ex when F was 3, and like yours he moved in with someone very quick.
Because of the age gaps between my kids, I found myself very lonely in the beginning, once I had put little one to bed, it was just me left in the house 
Thats when I found sites like this, and sat for hours at night, making new friends, albeit all a virtual life, I made some really good friends, and ones that understood everything that I moaned about 
Its took 3 years, but now I have found the confidence to get back out there into the real world.
Look forward to reading your posts
Take care
J xx
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