hello

by donna chapman — last modified 2008-04-13 17:25

hello

Posted by donna chapman at April 11. 2008

hi,

im donna

im 21, and a mum of two boys. Kayne who is 3 and Tayden who is 4 months. I have just split from my husband after 18 months of marriage and 5 years together. It has devastated me, and its hard work getting things back on track. XXXX

Re: hello

Posted by lorna brook at April 12. 2008

Hi Donna,

I'm a single Mum to be after my partner of 8yrs left me when I was 9 weeks pregnant. My baby is due June 2nd and although excited I'm terrified too!! It's awful splitting up with someone you had anticipated spending the rest of your life with let alone coping with children / pregnancy on top of that. I know my situation is a little different to yours but I can certainly sympathize with how you must be feeling now. It's tough but it will gradually get better - I know you will know this already and it doesn't really help to be told it as you want to feel better NOW. I did find it helpful using forums like this one and talking to other people either in the same boat or those who have gone through it and come out the other side.

Do you have the support of family and friends? It's important to talk about how your feeling rather than shut yourself away and hide although that's tempting sometimes. Can you see you and your ex staying friends - will he help out with the kids? What you will soon realise is that women are the stronger sex and far better at coping than we give ourselves credit for.

Hang in there, focus on your beautiful children and take it day by day.

I hope this helps a little

Lorna xx